Monday, September 14, 2009

The Best Secrets

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Fave Joanna of A Cup of Jo has just finished a fabulous series by guest bloggers while she was celebrating her newly wedded life: Our Secrets to a Happy Marriage! The *bestest* people are guesting, like crazy amazing photographers Jesse and Whitney of Our Labor of Love, the ever-inspirational Stephanie Nielsen of the Nie Nie Dialogues, and Grace Bonney of Design*Sponge!

My fave piece of advice, though, was def by Anna Bond of Rifle Design:

"Love your other how they need to be loved, not how you need to be."

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A friend told me this simple mantra, saying that it had transformed his parents' marriage. It has stuck with me ever since. It makes so much sense and yet is so easy to forget because I think by nature we tend to be pretty selfish. Love is selfless, though, and what truly makes me happy is when my husband is happy. So, a key to a good marriage is trying your best to focus on what your significant other needs you to be to him, instead of what you want him to be to you.

P.S. Nathan told me I should write, "Have drunken sex as often as you can." Ha.

Perfect advice. All of it :D

1 comment:

Rachel said...

I think that was basically one of the things we were taught on our marriage course. The love each other how they need, not how you want rather than the drunken sex part (although that too is good advice in itself...)

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